Abram and Lot
Resolve a Family Conflict
How to Solve
Bible Study Lessons --
and I have family conflicts frequently (if we are
average) - Lot and his Uncle
Abram were no
Their possessions had
overreached the boundaries where they lived so a
compromise had to be met.
Read the Bible
verses from Genesis
and see how Abraham (Abram) solves the situation
between Lot and himself.
See how we can solve our
conflict situations in the lesson below.
from Lot and Avoids Conflict
So Abram said to
Lot, Please let there be no strife between
you and me, nor between my herdsmen and your
herdsmen, for we are brothers.
Is not the whole land
Please separate from me;
if to the left, then I will go to the right; or
if to the right, then I will go to the
Lot lifted up his eyes and
saw all the valley of the Jordan, that it was
well watered everywherethis was before the
Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrahlike the
garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt as
you go to Zoar.
So Lot chose for himself
all the valley of the Jordan, and Lot journeyed
eastward. Thus they separated from each other.
Abram settled in the land
of Canaan, while Lot settled in the cities of
the valley, and moved his tents as far as Sodom.
You know, in all my reading,
for some reason I never really thought of Abram as
being rich. I've always pictured an old man barely
making ends meet. So much for perceptions. Now, on
with the lesson...
As shown in verses 8 and 9,
Abram did not want to make an enemy of his nephew
Lot, so he made a compromise with him and offered
Lot the first move.
Abram was willing to take a
risk of losing by giving Lot this generous
Abram's response holds a
lesson for us when we find ourselves in conflict
with family members, friends or
Many people believe that
negotiation must have a winner and a loser.
Abram didn't see it that way.
He found that the problem could be solved by giving
up something -- and ended up with a win-win
Be a Problem Solver - Not a
Let's remember Abram's
example next time we find ourselves in an awkward
situation with family members, coworkers or
Sometimes, all it takes is a
willingness to make the first move toward
resolution by letting others win - or at least
allowing them to save face.
We may sometimes be cheated
using this method of reasoning but many times we
will find that our part of the bargain is very
satisfactory without going through the anguish of
Can you and I become problem
If you would like to discover
how you can receive the love and life-changing
experience of Jesus Christ, please take a moment to
through John 3:16 to
find out more.
Here is a Story about
Conflict at the Office
The office is not only a
place for business, but also a place where people
meet other people, interact, make friends, and
sometimes, unfortunately, make enemies.
Conflict IS Going to
The employees of an office
altogether form a social group, and where there is
a social group, there is always the potential for
social conflict between its members.
Conflict with reference to
business concerns is expected, acceptable as long
as the conflict remains a professional
disagreement, but when office conflict arises out
of personality clashes, subgroup and nonbusiness
related differences, such conflict can have a
serious impact on productivity, quality and the
That's when social conflict
requires management attention.
Competitive Spirit can Cause
Often, especially in offices
of highly skilled employees, conflict occurs out of
competition. Many businesses encourage their
employees to compete.
Competition can bring out the
best in employees, increasing both production and
When competition reduces
employee esteem, or when it turns employees into
ruthless enemies, then management simply needs to
remove encouraged competition and direct their
employees to work as a team.
Office conflict often
disappears when management increases the
interdependence of workers. Use competition when it
facilitates your business objectives, but don't
overuse. Use competition intelligently.
How America was
competition among businesses and individuals. This
cultural trait may sometimes rule the worker: the
worker sees himself as always in competition, even
When threatened by a
competitive coworker, some employees will use
personal attacks to denigrate their competition, or
to preserve their own self-image.
Manager as Conflict
When a manager perceives that
this is the case, its time for the manager to have
a talk with the employee and guide the employee
towards more mature behavior.
If the employee's attacks are
malicious, it's better to let the employee go than
to have a conflict escalate into personal assaults.
The manager must be ever mindful of employee
Office conflict can be
avoided if the business fosters common respect
among its employees and demands professionalism at
The personnel department of a
business should have policies in place to allow
employees to report office conflicts and to provide
a fair and adequate hearing on all sides.
Be There For
An open door policy should be
in place that assures employees that no retaliation
will occur, either from the person with which the
employee is in conflict, the person's manager or
To avoid the politicization
of a conflict, personnel should judge all conflicts
and render solutions. Personnel is trained for this
Put It in
A code of conduct for office
employees should be posted on boards throughout the
organization and included in employee handbooks.
New employees may be made aware of the
organization's code of conduct at new employee
Be the Example - Not the
By setting an example of
respect and consideration for fellow workers,
management can prevent many office conflicts from
Use this Bible Study Lesson
for Conflict Resolution
The next time you are faced
with a bad situation, no matter if it is at home
with family members, at work or with friends at
church, remember how Abram and Lot resolved their
Just Like Abram ( Abraham )
Make Your Conflict Win-Win
Abram gained by losing and
setting up a compromise all could live with. Use
the wisdom of God and the Book of Genesis next time
you are confronted.
God always knows the best
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