Bible Study Lessons — Genesis 13:1-18
How to solve conflict? You and I have family conflicts frequently (if we are average) – Lot and his Uncle Abram were no different.
Their possessions had overreached the boundaries where they lived so a compromise had to be met.
Read the Bible verses from Genesis and see how Abraham (Abram) solves the situation between Lot and himself. Let’s see how we can solve our family conflict situations by following the Old Testament lesson below.
Abram Separates from Lot and Avoids a Family Conflict
So Abram said to Lot, “Please let there be no strife between you and me, nor between my herdsmen and your herdsmen, for we are brothers.
Is not the whole land before you?
Please separate from me; if to the left, then I will go to the right; or if to the right, then I will go to the left.”
Lot lifted up his eyes and saw all the valley of the Jordan, that it was well watered everywhere—this was before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah—like the garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt as you go to Zoar.
So Lot chose for himself all the valley of the Jordan, and Lot journeyed eastward. Thus they separated from each other.
Abram settled in the land of Canaan, while Lot settled in the cities of the valley, and moved his tents as far as Sodom. – Genesis 13:8-12 NASB
Abram’s Good Fortune
You know, in all my reading, for some reason I never really thought of Abram as being rich. I’ve always pictured an old man barely making ends meet. So much for perceptions. Now, on with the lesson..
Compromise of Abram
As shown in verses 8 and 9, Abram did not want to make an enemy of his nephew Lot, so he made a compromise with him and offered Lot the first move.
Abram was willing to take a risk of losing by giving Lot this generous offer.
Winners and Losers
Abram’s response holds a lesson for us when we find ourselves in conflict with family members, friends or coworkers.
Many people believe that negotiation must have a winner and a loser.
Abram didn’t see it that way. He found that the problem could be solved by giving up something — and ended up with a win-win situation.
Be a Problem Solver – Not a Problem Maker
Let’s remember Abram’s example next time we find ourselves in an awkward situation with family members, coworkers or business associates.
Sometimes, all it takes is a willingness to make the first move toward resolution by letting others win – or at least allowing them to save face.
We may sometimes be cheated using this method of reasoning but many times we will find that our part of the bargain is very satisfactory without going through the anguish of conflict.
Can you and I become problem solvers?
If you would like to discover the love and life-changing experience of Jesus Christ, please take a moment to read through John 3:16 to find out more.
Here is a Story about Conflict at the Office
The office is not only a place for business, but also a place where people meet other people, interact, make friends, and sometimes unfortunately make enemies.
Conflict IS Going to Happen
The employees of an office altogether form a social group, and where there is a social group, there is always the potential for social conflict between its members.
Conflict with reference to business concerns is expected, acceptable as long as the conflict remains a professional disagreement, but when office conflict arises out of personality clashes, subgroup and non-business related differences, such conflict can have a serious impact on productivity, quality and the bottom line.
That’s when social conflict requires management attention.
Competitive Spirit can Cause Problems
Often, especially in offices of highly skilled employees, conflict occurs out of competition. Many businesses encourage their employees to compete.
Competition can bring out the best in employees, increasing both production and quality.
One Resolving Method
When competition reduces employee esteem, or when it turns employees into ruthless enemies, then management simply needs to remove encouraged competition and direct their employees to work as a team.
Office conflict often disappears when management increases the interdependence of workers.
Use competition when it facilitates your business objectives, but don’t overuse. Use competition intelligently.
How America was Built
Capitalism promotes competition among businesses and individuals. This cultural trait may sometimes rule the worker: the worker sees himself as always in competition, even with coworkers.
When threatened by a competitive coworker, some employees will use personal attacks to denigrate their competition, or to preserve their own self-image.
Manager as Conflict Mediator
When a manager perceives that this is the case, its time for the manager to have a talk with the employee and guide them towards more mature behavior.
If the employee’s attacks are malicious, it’s better to let the employee go than to have a conflict escalate into personal assaults. The manager must be ever mindful of employee safety.
Office conflict can be avoided if the business fosters common respect among its employees and demands professionalism at all times.
The human resources department of a business should have policies in place to allow employees to report office conflicts and to provide a fair and adequate hearing on all sides.
Be There For Them
An open door policy should be in place that assures employees that no retaliation will occur, either from the person with which the employee is in conflict, the person’s manager or his department.
To avoid the politicization of a conflict, human resources should judge all conflicts and render solutions. People should be trained for this task.
Put It in Writing
A code of conduct for office employees should be posted on boards throughout the organization and included in employee handbooks. New employees may be made aware of the organization’s code of conduct at new employee orientations.
Be the Example – Not the Exception
By setting an example of respect and consideration for fellow workers, management can prevent many office conflicts from ever occurring.
Use this Bible Study Lesson about Abram & Lot for Conflict Resolution
The next time you are faced with a bad situation, no matter if it is at home with family members, at work or with friends at church, remember how Abram and Lot resolved their differences.
Just Like Abram ( Abraham ) Make Your Conflict Win-Win
Abram gained by “losing” and setting up a compromise all could live with. Use the wisdom of God and this Book of Genesis guide next time you are confronted.
God always knows the best solution.
Love in Christ
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